Anger

Anger is a natural and most automatic way of responding to the pain of one form or the other. It is a strong feeling of displeasure. It is often a reaction to stress, injustice or failure. People change their feeling of pain into anger because it feels better to be angry than to be in pain.

Anger is not always a reaction to a present circumstance, sometimes a situation will unconsciously remind a person of a past experience. A person sometimes displaces their anger about the past onto the recent situation. Angry people most always feel that their anger is justified. However, other people don`t always agree. Certain negative thought patterns often precede an outburst of anger. These include Blaming, Overgeneralizing, Rigidity, Mind reading, etc.

Some people feel that letting their anger out by screaming or yelling at someone else helps them feel better. But angry outbursts can become a habit. Aggression tends to cause more anger, not less. Moreover, the way other people react to anger can fuel an individual`s stress and may lead to increased anger. Individuals, who have trouble admitting to their anger and accepting responsibility for their action often play the blame game. They have difficulty seeing the situation as being their fault. There`s always something or someone to blame.

There is probably no more problematic human emotion than anger. The problem with anger is not that it exists but how we handle it. Like any other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes, when you get angry, your level of the energy hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline goes up. An angry person may develop headaches, a rapid increase in heart rate and blood pressure.

Anger is a weakness, it needs proper addressing. Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or directed into more constructive behaviour. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. There are other ways to manage anger also, meditation, try deep breathing, positive self talk, or stop your angry thoughts, keep a log of when you feel angry, try to gain a different perspective practice and good listening are some among many.

In the end, no one is perfect and, therefore, anyone may occasionally lose their temper. However, it is important that moments like those are the exception and not the rule. Everyone is able to listen to and tolerate a complaint when it is expressed in measure terms.